If you’ve spent a good portion of time in the personal growth world, you’ve likely encountered the notion of “perfection” as it relates to our being. You have likely heard phrases such as “You are perfect just the way you are” or “You are perfectly imperfect.” While these phrases are well intentioned, they can certainly cause a lot of confusion due to possible conflicts that can arise if we evaluate them in depth.
I recall how just few years ago whenever I would see a “positive” or “inspirational” quote appear on my Facebook feed I would shudder and feel repulsed at the the sight of it. Even the mere sight of overly “happy” people would make me cringe. I thought to myself, “How can someone be so delusional to believe in such unrealistic and wishful thinking? They’re all lying to themselves.”
Having been on the journey of awakening and personal growth for many years now, it often becomes extremely tempting to want to “fix” others around you that you care about. You’ve probably read some new book or attended a really transformational workshop that’s shifted your outlook on things and become excited as a result of of how much value it’s added to your life and feel compelled to share this with everyone within a 10km radius. You may even be thinking, “Why doesn’t everyone know about this?!”
While many of you have encountered the world of seeking to “discover your purpose” and the slew of information that comes along with that, what you may not of been told is that finding your purpose is not the same as “feeling” on purpose. Your purpose is meaningless unless it’s acted upon. Having a sense of purpose on its own is not inherently going to lead to feeling fulfilled. With the many years of personal development and soul searching that I’ve done, I was fortunate enough to have come across the following formula that eloquently describes how we can achieve this sense of true fulfilment in our lives. (i.e. Feeling “On Purpose”)
When it comes to the reality of our daily lives, most of us have forgotten where we originally came from before we manifested into this physical form. Let me serve you with that reminder today.
When it comes to our own individual experiences, we can say for certain that we have thoughts and that we have a body. Yes, this is true. But read carefully. You HAVE a body and you HAVE thoughts. You are NOT your thoughts, nor are you your body. This is the trap we fall into, that we begin to believe so strongly in the illusion of identification with our thoughts and bodies. But is it true?
The process of moving towards enlightenment, which to me is synonymous with expanding your field of consciousness, and raising your vibration, is by no means a journey for the light-hearted. This is not a process of “gaining” something, but rather the loss of everything you thought you were. Enlightenment is a destructive process. It is about undoing all of which you are not, so we can finally uncover our true essence that has been lying dormant underneath all this time. This journey of self-discovery is all about removing the barriers to your divine essence.
I’ve always felt from a very young age that I was different from everyone else, that I had some kind of tattoo stamped on my forehead that said “weirdo” that only others could see. It was a huge challenge for me to connect with others (especially people my age) when I was growing up. I didn’t have many friends growing up which resulted in a lot of loneliness and suffering. I felt a desperate need deep down to feel “connected” to something, to feel loved and whole. At the time I believed this could be only received from other people, so I tried very hard to prove to others that I was “good enough” for them so people would accept me and love me.
I believe when it comes to openly expressing TLC (Tender Love and Care), amongst men and women, there seems to be a huge deficit experienced on both ends, especially when it comes to expressing it openly with the opposite sex.
Without getting into too much of the biochemistry of why regular physical contact with others is so crucial for us, we already recognize the value of this and seek this type of connection and intimacy with others, whether through friendship, or something more.
This is a very fitting topic for me to write about as this has been one of the largest hurdles I have needed to face and continue to encounter. Self-doubt is one of the primary reasons why we never get what we want in life, because we avoid the action necessary to get us there, or we simply don’t believe we deserve it.
I am no exception to this, in fact, just taking the steps towards MY vision around launching this blog and sharing my experiences and stories has been something I have put off for well over a year despite how obvious and trivial it seemed on the surface.
You’re here because something deep within you is speaking to you. This inner voice seems to be directing you on a path of service and contribution on a scale that you can’t fully comprehend (yet). However, what is clear is that you feel a deep desire to add value to other people’s lives in a profound and meaningful way, and that nothing else seems to satisfy you as much. Your idea of fulfilment is uplifting others around you (as well as yourself) and going on an incredible journey through life to create the best possible version of yourself possible. You value experiences over things, and nothing makes your soul happier than creating genuine connections with others.